The 20-Something Anxiety, Solved

I used to worry about my future. A lot.

What school should I go to? What field should I study? What should be my second major? What internship should I get? What is life after college? How will I survive in a new city? What job am I gonna get? Which dream should I pick to follow? Who am I gonna marry? When will I make money? Do I really need to iron my shirts?

I don’t know if we can stop having concern for what lies ahead, but here’s what’s solved a lot of the equation for me:

اِعْلَمْ أَنَّ مَا أَخْطَأَكَ لَمْ يَكُنْ لِيُصِيبَكَ، وَمَا أَصَابَكَ لَمْ يَكُنْ لِيُخْطِئَكَ

Know that what has passed you by, was not going to befall you,

and what has befallen you, was not going to pass you by.

Prophet Muhammad

Your life is a story (I’ve said it before), and nothing’s arbitrary.

Make decisions the best you can. Consult others, research and learn, but then decide.

Move forward knowing that you’re getting what was always meant to come to you, and all those regrets you harbor about the opportunity costs of what you’ve missed out on—know that you were always meant to miss out on those things.

Your path is your path. Walk it.

Stop reading listicles about the “best” or “worst” thing about your 20s (btw, those are the only two options).

Yes, the 20s are important (here’s a book I’ve listened to multiple times that strongly makes that point), but they’re also just years of your life. Stop trying to figure out how to approach these years, and start figuring out how to approach all the years of your life moving forward.

There, problem solved.

Written by a 20-something who obvs knows nothing.