…is to have lived.
See it for the privilege it is. Recognize that loss usually clears out some space within you, so that you can gain something else—something different, something better, or something that’s finally ready for you.
And remember that losing it doesn’t mean you never had it. With many things, having “had it” means you’ll always have it, even if you don’t have it anymore.
We lose items of significance, lives of those we love, relationships with those we once loved, and on and on and on. Yes, it can hurt. And yes, it can keep on hurting. But the goal is not to avoid hurt. The goal is to recognize that hurt, and move forward despite it.
وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُم بِشَيْءٍ مِّنَ الْخَوْفِ وَالْجُوعِ وَنَقْصٍ مِّنَ الْأَمْوَالِ وَالْأَنفُسِ وَالثَّمَرَاتِ ۗ وَبَشِّرِ الصَّابِرِينَ
And surely We shall try you with something of fear and hunger, and loss of wealth and lives and crops; but give glad tidings to the steadfast. (Quran 2:155)
You have lost…and yet, you’re still here.