Most of them, you don’t have to be guilty about. Stop being ashamed to like things and just like them. Draw your line over which you don’t cross, and live freely on the side you find acceptable, even if others have a different line.Read more "Guilty Pleasures"
In my religion, there’s a special prayer you make when you want to make a decision, and you’re looking for some guidance or reassurance. You pray two raka’at (units of prayer), and recite a du’a (a prescribed set of words of prayer) that essentially says: I’m making this decision, so Allah (God), if it’s good […]Read more "Are You Ignoring The Signs of Your Life?"
There’s an old children’s song that sometimes is used by improv troupes to warm up as a team. They huddle togehher and repeat: Whether the weather be cold Or whether the weather be hot We’ll be together No matter the weather Whether we like it or not! The alliteration and rhyming helps to get into […]Read more "Come What May"
Being independent is a great quality. To be able to take care of yourself without needing outside help is admirable. But sometimes, our independence can go too far. We shut out any assistance that others can provide us, and I think it’s out of this fear we have of being anything but independent. We’re afraid […]Read more "Fear of Dependence"
Your logic is based on all the information and critical thinking skills you’ve gathered over your lifetime. It’s also based on a lifetime of assumptions you’ve made about things you have no idea about, but could only estimate and guess based on what you do already know. As long as you acknowledge what you know, […]Read more "Question Your Logic"
If so, it’s time to upgrade. If you need a title for people to follow you, then your influence will only extend to the times and places that you have that title. Upgraded leadership is when people give you permission to lead them. That doesn’t come by telling people your position, that comes from giving people […]Read more "Are you a leader only because of your position?"
…you still show up. Because when you make a habit of not showing up, so does Inspiration.Read more "When Inspiration Doesn’t Hit…"
are still Starts. Don’t give up on the whole thing just ’cause you started a little later. Whether it’s your day, your business, your degree, whatever it is: A late start is still a start.Read more "Late Starts"
We think the business of business is the business of making money. That’s true, and most of business is that. But we can expand and simplify it down to saying that the business of business is the business of value. We exchange value with one another, whether that value is time, information, energy, motivation, healing, […]Read more "The Business of Business"
It’s simple to ask, but does wonders to break the ice. I find myself doing this with every person I meet, because sometimes it’s most satisfying to break the ice when a person doesn’t expect you to. When you show interest in somebody who didn’t think they’d be of interest to you, it builds connections […]Read more "What’s Your Name?"
Or the beginning? There’s no objective answer. Pick one and prove it. If you make yourself believe something, you’ll act on that belief. So, is this the end? Or is this the beginning?Read more "Is this the end…?"
It’s cool to have brand awareness. It’s cool to have lots of likes and shares. It’s cool to have fans. But let’s not forget that unless people give you something they value in exchange for the value you provide to them, it’s all just…fluff. The bottom line’s gotten a bad rap these days, but it’s […]Read more "Let’s Not Forget The Bottom Line"
Lately, I’ve been trying to develop some ideas and projects that I have high aspirations for. I have a big vision and goals for what these things could be. But there’s a problem. I keep getting thoughts of if this thing’s starting so small, will it ever get as big as I want it to? […]Read more "Where’s The Bathroom Gonna Go In My Mansion?"
Nothing. So maybe we should try doing that sometimes. It’s the only thing you can do perfectly, if you can’t accept less than perfection. The scary thing is, this is what perfectionists often end up doing. After too many failed attempts at perfection, instead of giving up on the idea of perfection, they give up trying […]Read more "What’s Perfect To A Perfectionist?"
It was a time machine that I didn’t know I was building. I’ve been on YouTube for maybe a decade now, and it houses some of my proudest accomplishments and my greatest embarrassments. It’s where I explored my passions and expressed the precocious profundity of a teenager seeming to have figured life out. It’s where […]Read more "What YouTube was to me…"
This is what most of us think: When I have… time, money, age, experience, the right person… Then I’ll be… free, eligible, ready, happy… So I’ll do… what I’ve always wanted, good things, the right work… It doesn’t work this way. You think you can’t be what you want, because of some resources you don’t […]Read more "When I Have…Then I’ll Be…So I’ll Do…"
So stop telling yourself it’s hard. Tell yourself it’s “a challenge I’m ready to take on,” or it’s “worth the struggle,” or it’s “an opportunity to grow.” How you label something will determine how you approach it.Read more "Telling Yourself It’s Hard, Makes It Harder"
Non-math-related questions to ask when evaluating if something is valuable to you: How did this make me feel? Can I use something from this in my life moving forward? Did this reinforce something I believe in? Did this challenge an assumption I had? Was my time better spent doing this than it would’ve been if […]Read more "Stop Doing Math To Calculate What Things Are Worth To You"
There’s a John Green novel that structures its chapters by titling them “# Days Before…” and “# Days After…” (or something to that effect.) There was an event in the middle. I think we measure life in those terms quite a bit. Something big happens and now our life is divided by that moment, everything […]Read more "Before It Happened, After It Happened"
Your life can feel like a random assortment of events and interactions, especially if you self-describe it that way. When you’re a little lost, and not sure what everything is leading to, or what everything that happened is all supposed to mean, you may just need some time to frame things up. A heartbreak here […]Read more "Framing Things Up"