…emotionally. …personally. …materially. …happily. …wholly. In a world where the default is to be non-committal, your investment means everything. What people don’t realize, though, is that investment has a return, but only if you invest. Not trade, not do a favor, not try something out…you only get the return on investment if you actually invest. So […]Read more "We Want You To Invest…"
I grew up a good kid. I followed the rules and tried to not make too much trouble for people around me. And in return for this show of respect for the rules and others, I was often praised, and shown love and appreciation. Nothing wrong there, but what did that developed into over years […]Read more "The Benefit of Being A Bad Kid (As Told By A Good Kid)"
I’m getting more and more uncomfortable with this statement nowadays. I understand there’s people who do terrible things, who act with no care or concern for you or their fellow human beings, who operate in a way that’s so antithetical to everything you’ve come to believe. But when we give in to the notion that […]Read more "“I have no sympathy for people who…”"
Don’t pay too close attention to most of the rest.Read more "Master Few Things."
I’ve shared this du’a before, the du’a of Musa (as) as he fled the town he grow up in, and found himself with nothing: رَبِّ إِنِّيْ لِمَا أَنْزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيْرٌ My Lord, I am, of whatever bit of good you would send down to me, in need. When the goodness comes, and it […]Read more "Too Much Good"
I’ve been wrestling a lot lately with the notion of “fun.” I find that these days, although I’m actually really happy with everything I’m doing and am involved with, from the outside looking in, it doesn’t appear that I often have all that much “fun.” Part of me thinks this may be because I’m in […]Read more "Do You Lose The Fun Once You Know What You’re Doing?"
I’ve spent enough time in office cubicles and school libraries to know the art of doing something that “looks like work.” I don’t just mean things that look like work to your bosses or superiors, but even worse than that, things that look like work to you. “I’m downloading files” or “I’m adjusting the font” or […]Read more "It Looks Like Work"
It’s kind of sad we have to wait until we’ve broken the camel’s back before we realize, “Hmm…this is probably a bit too much straw, huh?” Stop stacking straw while looking away. Look at what you’re stacking, and how much of it you’re stacking. Too often, we just keep doing something, but are wholly unaware […]Read more "The Camel’s Back"
Now that ________ is done, I’m gonna start over. Turn a new leaf. Hey, meet the new me! How long does this last? A week? A day? We spend too much time telling, and not enough time showing. Telling ourselves these platitudes and making these empty promises, but never showing the commitment or discipline to […]Read more "Stop With The “Starting Over”"
I’ve talked about this with a few people, but last year was one of my worst Ramadans ever. This was made all the worse because it was “supposed to” be one of my best Ramadans ever. I finished a program where I learned the basics of Arabic and understanding the Qur’an, and I was set to […]Read more "A Slower Ramadan"
One of our teachers mentioned this concept of your “childhood Imam.” He referred to this concept of the Imam of the masjid when you were a kid, that person who maybe taught you to read the Quran, or first exposed you to the life of the Propjet (peace be upon him)…someone you grew up with. […]Read more "Your Childhood Imam"
…fundamentals. Don’t try to run too fast, enjoy the walk.Read more "Fluency Comes From…"
When the night is quiet, the mind is the loudest.Read more "Shhhh…"
But there’s one in that other person’s, too. Sometimes we forget that all the depth and complexity that exists within us, also exists within those other people that we’re afraid of, or that we’re in love with, or that we utterly hate… All forms of anxiety, fear, and irrational action usually find their source in […]Read more "There’s a Multiverse In Your Mind"
Allah.Read more "Allah."
I have a playlist on YouTube called “Makes Me Happy” It’s a compilation of videos that, no matter what, anytime I watch them or a part of them, I laugh, I smile, or I just feel happy. I realized a while back the importance of having such a playlist, or a normal list, of things […]Read more "The “Makes Me Happy” List"
We’ve all been somewhere, and now we’re here. It’s valuable to take out the time to figure out how in the world you exactly got from that A to this B. It’s easy to forget the pain, the struggles, the fears, the anxieties, and the worries you went through in your past, especially if you’ve […]Read more "Your A to B"
I try not to speak in absolutes. Most everything finds its most truthful expression in the middle — balance is the rule, not the exception. The trouble with that, though, is that drama favors the extreme…and people gravitate toward drama. It may be more fun, or more entertaining, or more popular to speak in extremes. […]Read more "Absolutes."
Is it saying something new? Is it saying something old, in a new way? Is it even saying something? Is it something anyone else could’ve written? Is it something worth saying? When all’s said and done, this game of writing is about the paradoxical pursuit of connecting universally through the specific. Generalities don’t connect. Specificities […]Read more "How I Judge Writing"
Though it’s really hard to escape that cycle. We fall into one extreme, and think the best way out of it is to bounce to that other end of the spectrum. We mistaken this for “balance.” Balance is not something you’re constantly trying to chase – it’s not about actively seeking it. Balance is the […]Read more "Balance Is Not Bouncing From One Extreme To Another"