Is it saying something new? Is it saying something old, in a new way? Is it even saying something? Is it something anyone else could’ve written? Is it something worth saying? When all’s said and done, this game of writing is about the paradoxical pursuit of connecting universally through the specific. Generalities don’t connect. Specificities […]Read more "How I Judge Writing"
Though it’s really hard to escape that cycle. We fall into one extreme, and think the best way out of it is to bounce to that other end of the spectrum. We mistaken this for “balance.” Balance is not something you’re constantly trying to chase – it’s not about actively seeking it. Balance is the […]Read more "Balance Is Not Bouncing From One Extreme To Another"
…choose clarity. But also, try to not land in a situation where you have to choose. 😉Read more "If you have to choose between cleverness and clarity…"
If it’s not on the schedule, it doesn’t happen. Unless, of course, you let it happen anyway, at which point you have to inquire: who’s setting my schedule? If it’s not you, you got a problem. Take charge of your time by understanding first who or what you’re allowing to be in charge of it […]Read more "On The Schedule"
Close but no cigar. Little too late. And I almost thought of a fourth phrase that means “almost,” but unfortunately, no such luck. When you just miss the target, or fall off right before the finish line, it’s important to remember how far you’ve come anyway. As Ricky Bobby learns in the film Talladega Nights, […]Read more "Day Late and Dollar Short"
“How do you reconcile ______ with ______ ?” For you, it might be “wearing hijab” with “feminism.” Or “studying the sciences” with “belief in God.” Or “preserving your culture” with “assimilating to where you are.” We’re all walking contradictions, or at least, that’s how it appears to those who watch us walk. But if […]Read more "You Don’t Make Sense"
So give yourself time. Don’t give up so easily. When we fall off track, it can feel like we can never get back to it…but your path isn’t singular and straight. It’s a master key maze with more than one path to the same destination. Like with all directions, we can reroute, find new ways, […]Read more "The Way Back Can Be Longer Than You Expect"
Like many of us, I’ve gotten bogged down doing countless amounts of “comparative math.” That’s the math of what we’re supposed to be doing at this age, compared to what our parents did, or what our siblings or cousins did, or what our role models did. “My dad had three kids by my age…” or […]Read more "There’s No Typical Stage For Every Age"
We all need one. Not all of us get one. But if you find yourself not having one, make sure you’re okay with why you haven’t gotten one. If it’s because you’re giving your all to things you believe in (whether your family, a vocation, a cause…), then more power to you, until the tank […]Read more "A Day of Rest"
With everything we do, we should have a reasonable amount of doubt. It’s only healthy to have some skepticism. Expecting too much can be the source of all unhappiness. But there are a few simple things we should have absolutely no doubt in. These are beliefs, or causes, or truths we’ve come to know. Much […]Read more "Reasonable Doubt"
Today I did several things that I love, and I almost didn’t enjoy them. I taught some kids about improv, and saw a couple open up more than they would’ve before. I taught some students some of the Quran, and got to dive deeper into a passage I haven’t studied much before. I received some […]Read more "In The Moment"
If you want what’s best for you in this moment, you have to let go of what was best for you in a previous moment. As you seek growth and personal development, also take the time to empty yourself of the beliefs, habits, and limits that no longer serve you. A container can only hold […]Read more "Empty Yourself"
The streak has been broken. Which means…time to start a new one.Read more "It’s Official"
We’ll just leave this right here.Read more "May 29, 2017"
We’re not vigilantes. We’re not Avengers. As much as I hate to say it, I’m not Captain America. And it’s not our job to solely right wrongs in society… Our job is to connect to the hearts of those doing wrong. It’s to soften them, to help build them, to reform them through love. And […]Read more "We’re In The Heart-Building Business"
I used to think daily blogging was a business tool — that consistent content was king. It’s only over the last few months that I’ve learned that daily blogging, or doing any mental work that’s high volume in a very short amount of time is actually not very effective at all in actually achieving business […]Read more "Realization: Daily Blogging is Not Good for Business"
A friend and old classmate of mine recently shared a statement of the Prophet Muhammad (s) to our fellow classmates as they prepared to graduate: َمَنْ سَلَكَ طَرِيقًا يَبْتَغِي فِيهِ عِلْمًا سَهَّلَ اللهُ لَهُ طَرِيقًا إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ، وَإِنَّ الْمَلَائِكَةَ لَتَضَعُ أَجْنِحَتَهَا لِطَالِبِ الْعِلْمِ رِضًا بِمَا صَنَعَ، وَإِنَّ الْعَالِمَ لَيَسْتَغْفِرُ لَهُ مَنْ فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ حَتَّى […]Read more "On The Opportunity to Seek Knowledge"
This is the worst part of anything bad. It’s not the consequences, how you affect people, how you feel after — all of these are only side effects of this biggie: feeling distant from Allah. Every step you take away from Him will feel like a step away from life itself. He even says: وَلَا […]Read more "Distance from Allah"
And iteration is the key to excellence. You can’t improve unless you test, adjust, test, adjust, test, and adjust. But if your fear of starting stops you…you’ll have a hard time starting over and over again. And thus, you’ll have a hard time becoming excellent.Read more "Iteration Requires Starting"
It’s easy to make decisions with factors that everyone else uses. Money, ego, time. How will this decision affect these things? Sometimes we forget about our own well being, our families, our legacy. Every decision is a sacrifice of something for something else. Don’t get too distracted by the something else you’re getting that you […]Read more "What’s Best For You"